Our family recently moved to Denver from New York. Without knowing anyone when we moved, my husband and I dove into volunteer work and other activities to meet people. Every day my husband would come home from walking our dog at the park across the street from our house with a new business card or phone number of a person he had met there. Through our kids’ summer camps, schools, and other activities, we have continued to meet wonderful people and make new friends.
But all the new friends in the world can’t change the way we feel about the world we left back in New York. There are friends, family members, and colleagues who were a huge part of our lives that we now struggle to connect with. Of course, social media helps to some extent. We have Facebook to keep up with friends and family and LinkedIn to keep track of our former colleagues, but we don’t have the dinners out or the neighborhood block parties anymore.
We’re finding as we settle in that days, weeks, even months can go by before we find time to connect with our loved ones back in New York. We wish it could be more often, but as we all know, busy schedules throw a huge wrench in staying connected. Sometimes, by the time we get around to a phone date, there’s so much to catch up on that it doesn’t seem nearly good enough. So we push it aside.
Then, a few weeks ago, I remembered that the key to connection is much more simple than we sometimes make it out to be. The key to connection is, quite simply, talking.
That doesn’t mean we have to catch up on everything every time we have a chance to talk to our loved ones, it means we can simply say, “I’m thinking of you.” In fact, that goes a much longer way than any of us realize.
My lightbulb moment a few weeks ago happened when I went to a concert with a bunch of my new friends. We were going to see an artist I’d seen many times before with my New York friends. As I was singing and dancing and getting lost in the music, my best friend came into my mind. Instead of feeling saddened that she couldn’t be there or telling myself I’d remember to put a phone date on the calendar soon, I did the simple thing.
I pulled out my phone. I sent a text. All the text said was that I was at a concert of one of our favorite musicians and that it made me think of her. I told her I missed her. Then I put my phone away. In that brief moment, I connected with her. It wasn’t a major effort or something that took me away from the moment. Instead, it was a part of the moment. It was connection – even if from afar.
When you’re thinking about the people that are most important to you, don’t get hung up on how long it’s been since you talked. Don’t get hung up on how far away they may be either mentally or physically. Instead, just send them a message.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a text, a call, an email, or a message on social media. It doesn’t have to be perfect and it doesn’t have to take hours to compose. All it has to be is true and honest.
Trust me, they’ll love to hear from you, just like my best friend loved hearing from me. Connection only takes a moment – don’t waste your moments.
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